He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3
The past two years have been challenging in several different areas of my life. The most emotional challenge has brought about the most painful hurt. Isn’t that the way it usually is? My most painful hurt was to be misunderstood by two friends and then subsequently lose their friendships.
When I reflect on the situation, I become sad by the loss and sometimes anger is stirred because of the way it transpired. The anger stems from the unanswered questions of “why would I be treated this way by a friend?” or “why weren’t my friends more supportive?”
The story of Job is an example of friends who came to console but ended up causing Job more heartache. His friends came to him with the right intention, to comfort; but ultimately with the wrong message, “you’re doing it wrong!” Job’s hope was in God, but his friends did not agree with the way he was handling the situation and thought he had done something to bring on all of this tragedy and pain. Oh, I pray that in that situation, I would be quick to listen and slow to speak!
Our perception is so faulty at times because of our sinful nature. Unfortunately, our flesh has a tendency to raise it’s ugly head when we least expect it. You may not think that is true, but think about this. Have you been with an acquaintance or friend and they poured their heart out and you caught yourself tempted to one-up their situation? Or, have you ever listened to someone pour their heart out and then you presumably had “all” the answers? In situations where a friend is hurting, with few exceptions, the best friends are usually the quiet and listening friends. And you know what? Listening is so often difficult, but most of the time it is what is truly needed. Sometimes there are no immediate answers. Sometimes the answers are hidden from us. Sometimes what seems apparent is not the case at all. And sometimes the answers are just not what is important, it’s the being there for the friend that is needed. “Bear one another’s burdens, and therefore fulfill the law of Christ.” Galatians 6:2 says. Paul further exhorts us to “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” Romans 12:15.
The modus operandi of my flesh when I am hurt by someone is to initially feel sad, question, and then go back and forth with thoughts of self-pity and feeling sad. This is where our foot gets caught in the trap and Satan is allowed a foothold. The enemy of our soul is always looking for opportunities where we “feel” cheated or mistreated because then we are vulnerable to the set up of thinking we deserve more or better. Isn’t that what happened to Eve in the Garden of Eden? Satan tempted her by appealing to the idea that God was somehow holding out on her. He then led her down the path of thinking she deserved more or better than God was giving her. The snare is set. In this particular case, Satan turns the tide toward self-pity and despair. Repeating lies to you until you agree with him. When we choose to step deeper and deeper into the waters of doubt; which leads us right onto the deserted Isle of self-pity; then before we know it, the hurricane of despair has engulfed us and drowns us in it’s sorrows.
The real question when I am sorrowful is how much time am I spending in His Word and on my knees with the Lord? The more time on my knees spent with the Lord, the more I fully release my burden to Him and receive His peace. The more time in His Word, the more I gain His perspective regarding the situation and allow His Word to minister to me. What is God’s response when we seek Him? He will reach down into the depths of the sea of despair and grab you by the hand and pull you up and place onto the solid rock. He is our refuge. He is our shelter.
Beloved, we will all suffer hurts, pains, and wounds in this life from all different sources; but Jesus is the One we must run to. He has designed us to seek Him. When we come to Him in truth and transparency, He will give us His peace and rest. Let’s not be of those that run to substitute gods; such as: alcohol, sex, drugs, money and many other forms of idolatry that only provide us with empty promises and ultimately a spiral down the sea of despair. Jesus will heal your broken heart. Be persistent. Don’t give up if you don’t sense relief right away. Get on your knees and get in His Word. He WILL heal your broken heart. Don’t walk…run to Him, beloved, run to the rock that can’t be moved! Run to the arms of true love and bask in His peace and rest. He is the “balm of Gilead” and He will heal your broken heart and bind up your wounds.